“How do women work?” — We all started like this — But where did we all end up?
Whether this question is unconscious or not, finding the answer to this is quite a though task for 95% of us.
However, how many men tried to answer this question?
And even better, how many men found the right answer to this question?
I think that this was approximately one week after my first threesome that the answer became crystal clear to me.
But how many hours of hard work had I to go through for this Holy Grail…
(By the way, if you’re a lady reading this, I think that you’ll be even more shocked by the answer than a man.)
“Today, 20/01/2019, 22 y.o., still searching for my virility…”
This was the first line of my diary. I spare you the details of this note… but my social life was catastrophic at this point.
Never had a girl, nerdy Artificial Intelligence engineer, not good looking, shy… but…
“I can see through peoples’ souls deeply and infinitely. I can feel them deeply. I can see everything. I can do everything.”
This is how the previous note ended. This was my only belief, and the only belief I needed to realize my dreams. The first seed that would grow my unbreakable determination and success.
Just do it
I would then go out everyday and talk to women everywhere, no matter if it was raining, no matter if I was sick, no matter if I didn’t sleep. Just do it.
The first 100 days were only pain and suffering to be honest.
I cried. I threw up from stress. Only rejects were coming out of this.
But I was learning so much things about those humans and women, almost discovering them for the first time of my life, like a child would do, that my joy was far beyond the pain.
Even just saying hello to a stranger in the street was an incredible feeling for me.
At one point, the first piece of answer to this incredibly hard question came to me:
What if… I only was a MIRROR?
Let’s think about it for a second:
- If I am the mirror of my environment,
- And that I can change my environment,
- Then can I change myself?
This was a huge shift in my mind.
After that I stopped focusing too much on my thoughts, what I was saying, and my stressful emotions, overwhelming me while interacting with peoples.
I rather started to focus fully the peoples I was interacting with, to a point where I would even forget myself, since they are just me in a mirror.
I started to turn to 180 degree anything that those peoples were giving to me, and anything that I was giving to them, therefore creating an infinite virtuous circle between us. Like two mirrors would do between each other.
For the first time, real exchanges were happening. No superficial small talks were there anymore. We were actually going deep, and quickly.
If I wanted to say to a girl “I love your hairs”, now I would rather say “How do you know I love this style of haircut?” (:with a playful smile:).
This simple shift in my mind from “I” to “You” was changing absolutely everything.
Now the girl wouldn’t say only “Oh! thank you!” but she would rather say “Oh! I’m glad you like it haha!”, or in the best case scenario “Oh! Maybe it’s because I like you!;)”.
And here the magic happens: she now includes herself into the answer. She no longer says only “you” but also “I”. She invests into the interaction. She invests in me and consider herself as a part of our little game.
The mirrors’ virtuous circle was finally happening. I know it can sound like an insignificant detail at first, but after enough rounds of this infinite virtuous circle…
“Well, fuck my boyfriend. He never cares about me. I will rather come with you.”
This is what a model told me, just a few days after this shift happened in my mind. Only a few hours after meeting her.
At first I thought I found THE magic trick to get all the women I want.
But I was wrong, it was only the beginning of a far more complex system. A first signal sent to me by the universe to give me the will to continue my journey…
After some months and a lot of hard work again, I began to have quite the success I wanted. I was very close to the answer.
One day, without even being conscious of it, I started to have even more success than some of the girls I always dreamed about. Therefore leading to 3-somes and situations that I would have described as impossible just a few months ago.
In reality, I was now the girl. I was living like a popular girl. I was acting like a popular girl. I was thinking like a popular girl.
— Wait what?
This is what I thought. “What? I am a girl? All of this hard work to find out that in reality… I am just a girl?!”.
I used the previous mirrors’ virtuous circle so much, that I completed the circle and ended up back on myself.
I finally understood women so deeply that I simply ended up founding my entire self in them.
20/01/2020
We are the same.
We are one.
One year later, I finally understood everything. I spent one more year writing all the groundbreaking stuff I discovered. And now, Here I am, sharing a first piece of this with you.
If there are so much differences and conflicts between our sexes, this is only because 95% of us don’t have the guts to start looking at themselves into others.
There are no real exchanges anymore. Only small talks.
There are 7 billions of mirrors on this planet, but you close your eyes every time you cross path with one.
You look at others like you look at yourself on your phone with 100 filters on your face.
Women are not more complex than men.
Women work exactly like men.
However, Humans are incredibly complex machines, that don’t really communicate anymore (provided that they did once).
Now, not only men cannot understand women, but Men can simply not understand anyone anymore.
Moreover, we actually live in a society that gives women and men a very different space. Women are sexual objects and preys, while men are all perverts and hunters. But now I can tell you the truth: all of this is only a false belief that the society puts in your mind.
Women and men are exactly the same. However, Humans are complex. And this is Humans that we need to decode. This is where the challenge lies.
Yes I was a nerdy Artificial Intelligence engineer. But now I can understand all the complexity of Real Intelligence: the Human machine, leading me to the social life I always wanted.
May this first story be a first step towards your full understanding of the complex Human machine, yourself, and the others.
Men or Women.
Let’s create an even bigger virtuous circle now.
“How did you know you were my type of reader?” 😜
